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Five
Easy Steps to End Homework Battles
By Katie Basson
Ask parents what their biggest school year challenge is, and you'll
likely hear that it is the difficulty they face in getting their
kids to do homework. With so many other attractive ways for kids
to spend their time, getting them to buckle down and complete that
extra bit of schoolwork can be like pulling teeth. As with any chore,
though, there are strategies you can use to get it done and make
it more fun.
1.
Make Time for Homework
Fitness gurus have known this for years: you are more likely to
stick to an exercise regimen if you do it at the same time everyday
and make it an inviolable part of your schedule. The same goes for
homework. Don't leave it up in the air as to when homework will
be completed. This only ensures that it won't get completed until
you have an extended argument with your child about it-usually one
hour after bedtime. Instead, sit down with your child and review
your family schedule for the upcoming semester. Decide where homework
will fit in your daily schedule and make it non-negotiable. It is
always helpful to anchor homework time to some other regular activity.
Good choices are: directly after school or right before or after
dinner. (Scheduling homework in the hour before bedtime is usually
not a good practice since your child may be too sleepy to do a good
job.)
It
is also important to dedicate a set amount of time for homework.
This will discourage students from rushing through homework so that
they can watch the latest Disney video. What is a reasonable amount
of time to spend on homework? That varies with age. Check with your
child's teacher. It is generally accepted, though, that First and
Second graders should spend about a half hour on homework each night
while Third and Fourth graders might need to spend as much as an
hour per night.
2. Don't Accept No for an Answer
A common refrain from students is "I finished my homework in
school" or "The teacher didn't assign us any homework
today." It should not matter that they don't have a specific
assignment. Homework is an extension of the learning that occurred
that day in school, and what they learned that day can be extended
in any number of ways. Students can read silently during their allotted
homework time, they can look up information in an encyclopedia to
enhance what they are learning in Science or Social Studies, or
they can look at flashcards, practice math facts, and test their
spelling. This is how to teach your child to be a self-directed
learner. You will be giving them a gift to get them in the habit
of doing this now. When they are in high school, having this extra
study habit will bring them academic success.
3.
Establish a Partnership with Teachers
Early in the school year make an effort to get to know your child's
teacher. Make an appointment to talk with the teacher in the first
few weeks of school, so that you can express your desire to be a
good partner in your child's education. She will appreciate it,
and you will be one step closer to a smooth school year. Find out
what her homework policy is so that you know what to expect. It
is also helpful to know how high her standards are, so that you
can ensure that your child's homework is acceptable.
4. Provide the Right Environment
Most people's advice on homework is to set up a desk in your child's
room and make sure that they have a quiet and distraction-free work
environment. This sounds very reasonable, but few people seem to
be able to follow this advice. I know many students who instead
do their homework on the living room floor, at the kitchen counter,
or at the dining room table. It seems that some people work best
when they aren't isolated from household activity. If that is the
case with your child, then provide a small traveling office for
him so that he has all of the necessary items at hand and won't
waste time running around the house looking for a sharp pencil.
With all the supplies nearby, and distractions limited to the general
background noise of family living, your student ought to be able
to concentrate on homework.
5.
Set a Good Example
"Do as I say not as I do" is no longer considered appropriate
parental advice. In order to instill the proper values in our children,
we must model them. If we expect our children to be conscientious,
hard-working students, then that is what they must see in us. Make
an effort to show your child your work ethic by reading trade magazines
and business books while they do their homework. Take out a pencil
and write notes as you read. Investigate ideas fully. If you read
something interesting in the newspaper, look up information about
it on the Internet. Always be eager to learn something new. Sign
up for an adult education class, teach yourself to knit, or write
that novel you've always dreamed of. The more that you can show
your child that learning is a lifelong adventure that requires their
involvement, the more likely it is that homework will cease being
a chore and start being an integral part of a life well-lived.
If
you take the time to set up these parameters around homework, you'll
find that you waste less energy arguing over homework and making
up for lost assignments. You'll have more time and energy for other
pursuits, and so will your child. What's more, you'll discover that
the benefits of hassle free homework add up to more than just scheduling
efficiency, they equal a better education.
Katie
Basson is a parent, teacher, and creator of The BITs Kit Better
Behavior Kit for Kids. Katie teaches seminars on behavior
modification techniques, and coaches parents through challenging
behavioral and educational issues. She is on the Board of Directors
of the YWCA and is an educational advisor to Zoesis, Inc., a children's
software company. Katie's expert advice has been sought for articles
in The Boston Globe and Parents Magazine. Sign up for her weekly
Parenting Solutions newsletter at www.bitskit.com
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